1 post tagged “friendship choice”

Would you rather have one best friend or ten acquaintances? Why?

If by "acquaintance" we mean casual friend, then I can answer. But althogh the defenition varies, to me an "acquantance" is the girl who bags my groceries. So sue me, I'm into semantics.

I think the idea of a BFF is kind of for high school students, no? By the time we're through college I learned that friendships are like the lithosphere - constantly churning and changing. So I consider most of my friends either "casual" or "close". Bones is one of my few long-time friends whose idiosyncacies I can forgive and forget for a long-term freindship.

I have one very "devoted" friend from school who calls me often and lives close by. Unfortunately it turns out that she is not the greatest friend. If I tell her something personal, it's pretty much guaranteed that everyone will know soon after. Also I had a practicum interview and told her about it. The next day I found out she had called my supervisor and basically said, "Well you hired Ellie, why can't you hire me too"? Not cool.

Luckily I have other really good friends from grad school, who actually have integrity. We are all doing field work and having a great time helping each other. So the aforementioned friend is being phased out. Flexibility. Things change.